Friday, May 25, 2007

First Comes Love...



I met Jay (my now hubby) about 10 years ago. He was a bartender at the restaurant where I was a waitress. I liked him, but he certainly wasn't my type -- bald, skinny, lots and lots of tattoos. No thanks. Besides, I was in a serious relationship with someone else at the time, so was Jay. Actually Jay was engaged to this girl, but that ended pretty quickly and it was obvious to me that he was likin' me a bit. I pretended not to notice, but he isn't the most subtle man alive. What he IS, is patient! He stood on the sidelines watching and waiting while I continued on in this horrible relationship with "Mush"...that actually was this guy's nickname at one point -- I'll just leave it at that. I would stay at work after my shift and cry in my beer (and in Jay's ear) about the latest stunt that "Mush" had pulled. Jay would just listen. He never told me to dump the loser or date him instead. He was truly a good friend to me and JUST LISTENED. Meanwhile he was telling his mom that I was the girl he was going to marry someday. He didn't even get his feathers too ruffled when I showed him my engagement ring and gave the news that I would soon be "Mrs. Mush"! He just continued to be there for me. We would go out after work in a group, but soon find ourselves playing darts and having long talks, just the two of us. He even admitted his feelings for me one night (like I didn't already know). I told him I was flattered, but I was commited to my mush and could only offer him friendship. He told me that he would take whatever I was willing to give him. So, we became really great friends and one day I looked at him and thought 'if I wasn't involved with someone, I would definitely want to be with somebody like Jay'. That night I had a dream that it was my wedding day. I was walking down the aisle and looked up to see my groom waiting for me. My groom was not Mush. Any guesses as to who it was? Yep, and the rest (as they say) is history. I called off my engagement and soon after started VERY SLOWLY exploring a relationship with Jay. It was wonderful -- filled with honesty, love, and laughter. Finally I had found a man that I could see myself living HAPPILY ever after with...




*The picture was taken about 7 or 8 years ago, while we were dating. Jay was so willing to please me that he grew out his hair per my request. I quickly told him to shave it off again. He looks much better bald afterall, who knew?*

29 comments:

Verna said...

COOOL story! Friendship is the very best place to start. You are some of my favorite people and my Carrie and Erin like you both a lot too. Still trying to convince them to come to Nashville for the reunion.

new girl said...

Wow! I got chills reading about your dream! Talk about a selfless friend -- Jay sounds like someone with an innate understanding of what true love is.

Happy Anniversary (Hope I don't have that wrong)!!!!

new girl said...

Ok - i reread it -- I had it wrong -- happy anniversary of your meeting!!

Carrie said...

I always like to hear stories of how couples met, yours is unigue! I agree with Verna relationships that start as friendships are always a good start.

Carrie said...

I always like to hear stories of how couples met, yours is unigue! I agree with Verna relationships that start as friendships are always a good start.

Tracy said...

What a great love story. Steve and I think you guys are both SOOOOOOOOO special! Miss you tons!!!!!!

Panda-Mom said...

Awwwwwwwe......so sweet! ; )

Tracey & Mike said...

What a great story! And what a great man!

GWEN OATSVALL said...

i agree he is one goodlooking bald man ... not too many of those ... i love that story and how sweet that he knew you were the one ... i love a patient guy !!!

C.J. said...

I love it when the greatest of things come from the most unexpected happenings.

Stacy said...

That is a really neat story!!

Kathy and Joel said...

What a great story of your romance. I love it and thanks so much for sharing with us. I love getting glimpses into peoples' lives like this.

Shannon said...

Totally sweeeet story. Lucky girl!

eggrolls and chopsticks said...

Such a lovely love story. Ahhhhhhh

Ms. Dragonfly said...

Great story of your love. I think it's so special that you had that dream. Your subconscious knew something you didn't....

kerri said...

Thanks for sharing, beautiful to start off as friends. I am sure your daughter will enjoy hearing this story and she will pass it on for many generations, your love will always live on.

kris said...

What an incredible story of true love... thanks for sharing this!

amy liz said...

love you guys! i didnt even recognize the little jay with hair!
and......you may have just inspired a post for me.

Steffie B. said...

Awwwwww......you guys are so cute! I want to see more pictures of Jay with hair! lol

Mommy Spice said...

Great story. What a wonderful man!! My hubby and I were friends for a year before we started dating.

Truly Blessed said...

What a sweet story. What a nice guy. Happy 10 years together!

Truly Blessed said...

Yay!!!!!

Perrin said...

Great love story, how wonderful.

You are right I blew up that beachy picture of the two of them together and framed it. It made it sepia and put in it a pretty wooden frame.

Happy ten years!

a&mg said...

Very sweet story!

Beckyb said...

What a great story - I love to hear how people meet!! And yes, we need to see more pics of Jay with hair - that is good!!!!

Jonni & John said...

That is such a sweet post. Isn't it great how things turn out the way they should be? And how funny about Jay's hair. I like it shaved off too!

Hugs,
Jonni
:)

Dannye said...

oh my goodness, are we one and the same?? this story sounds almost like mine and ray's (except I was married to a "Mr. Mush", long story, let's just leave it at i was too young, and he was too old....)...anyway, neat-o story!!

The Shocks said...

I love that story. I think you told me that while we were in China. It is wonderful that you are great friends.

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